not really a zero sum game
There was an old song by Waylon Jennings titled "Mamas, Don't Let Your Babies Grow Up to be Cowboys"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RePtDvh4Yq4
He ain't wrong, he's just different but his pride won't let him,
Do things to make you think he's right.
Fun song. Been around a very long time. It has been used recently in at least one car commercial, so I do not think it will be going away any time soon.
The reason this song fits into my thinky thoughts here is that I realized (once again) yesterday that there are two very different schools of thought on what our square dance club actually **is**
There seems to be a chasm between those who see it primarily intended as a dance school to teach new people to square dance, and those who see it as a club of dancers that is primarily interested in holding and attending regular dances and dancing, but also offers lessons if new people want to join in and dance with the group.
Not exactly the same thing.
Both viewpoints are held by people who think they are "right."
It is a fine line, but there is a line there.
I admit that I am often guilty of over-thinking things. I get totally paralyzed by a true-or-false test, because nothing is totally black or white, and there is always "that one exception" that makes an absolute statement false.
Once upon a time, when my kidlets were smallish, we attended a PTA meeting and listened to Curt Medalen speak. He said the most dangerous trap to watch out for was when our kids decided they were Fred Flintstone and said "Yabba." Unlike Fred, they were not likely to be exclaiming in excitement and shouting "Yabba dabba doo!" - because that would be fine and dandy. He was pointing out the dangers of falling for "yes, but..." as an excuse, which often came out of the mouths of fast-talking children as "yabba..." to precede an excuse as to why they did or did not follow the instructions they were given.
Sometimes life is filled with yabba lines. Some matter a great deal, some matter a little, and some do not really matter at all - but you have to know where the line is before you can decide if it matters to you or not.
Because this one really does matter. Mission matters. Before you decide which direction you want to go, you need to know what results you want to achieve.
There was an old song by Waylon Jennings titled "Mamas, Don't Let Your Babies Grow Up to be Cowboys"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RePtDvh4Yq4
He ain't wrong, he's just different but his pride won't let him,
Do things to make you think he's right.
Fun song. Been around a very long time. It has been used recently in at least one car commercial, so I do not think it will be going away any time soon.
The reason this song fits into my thinky thoughts here is that I realized (once again) yesterday that there are two very different schools of thought on what our square dance club actually **is**
There seems to be a chasm between those who see it primarily intended as a dance school to teach new people to square dance, and those who see it as a club of dancers that is primarily interested in holding and attending regular dances and dancing, but also offers lessons if new people want to join in and dance with the group.
Not exactly the same thing.
Both viewpoints are held by people who think they are "right."
It is a fine line, but there is a line there.
I admit that I am often guilty of over-thinking things. I get totally paralyzed by a true-or-false test, because nothing is totally black or white, and there is always "that one exception" that makes an absolute statement false.
Once upon a time, when my kidlets were smallish, we attended a PTA meeting and listened to Curt Medalen speak. He said the most dangerous trap to watch out for was when our kids decided they were Fred Flintstone and said "Yabba." Unlike Fred, they were not likely to be exclaiming in excitement and shouting "Yabba dabba doo!" - because that would be fine and dandy. He was pointing out the dangers of falling for "yes, but..." as an excuse, which often came out of the mouths of fast-talking children as "yabba..." to precede an excuse as to why they did or did not follow the instructions they were given.
Sometimes life is filled with yabba lines. Some matter a great deal, some matter a little, and some do not really matter at all - but you have to know where the line is before you can decide if it matters to you or not.
Because this one really does matter. Mission matters. Before you decide which direction you want to go, you need to know what results you want to achieve.